āRelaxing is a very important part of farming successfully,ā says Robert Fetsch, Professor and State Extension Specialist in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at Colorado State University. āAg production is such a high-stress andĀ high-tension occupation that itās important for everyone to take care of themselves. We know from research that people who donāt take good care of themselves, donāt live as long.ā
Also, consider this; A farmerās job is never done. āFarmers and farm families work very hard,ā adds Don Bower, Department Head ofĀ Child and Family Development at the University of Georgia. āBut thereās always something more to do regardless of how many hours you work.ā
Relaxation is Relative
The evolution of farming and American work habits, in general, have progressed to the point where the time for relaxation is a scarce commodity. Studies have shown that Americans have added the equivalent of seven weeks to their annual work schedule since 1970 through longer work hours and less vacation time.
āThese are some troubling statistics, so itās important to find some balance in your life,ā says Bower. āThere is clear evidence that over time, stress reduces your bodyās physical resilience. Youāre less likely to be able to withstand infections and injuries if your body is not renewed by relaxation as well as good nutrition and exercise.ā
Wendell Joyce, farmer and current Executive Director of the Canadian Farm Business Management Council, notes that farm safety can also be at risk. āWhen I reflect on it, all the close calls Iāve had have been when I was under pressure or overtired,ā he says. āThereās a very definite correlation between the two.ā
Before you insist that you canāt possibly take five minutes out of your schedule to do nothing, consider that relaxing isnāt simply being idle.
āRelaxation is relative,ā says Joyce. āIt doesnāt have to be sitting on a beach or in a rocking chair. Relaxation can be sitting on a tractor. I find making hay is as relaxing for me as sitting in a rocking chair in the living room. Checking calves with my son is also relaxing. Relaxation is more of a state of mind than a physical location. It can be defined in many different ways.ā
I define relaxation as enjoying a cup of tea and a good laugh with friends around the kitchen table. For my husband, itās calling his mother who lives three hours away but wants to remain connected to the farm. My 80-year-old father who still farms,Ā relaxes by taking a 10-minute power nap after lunch. I havenāt learned the art of napping, but itās a great way to take a break and build more pauses into your life. Itās really wherever you go in your mind, body, and spirit where you lose all track of time and you become renewed.
Incorporating Relaxation and āPausingā Your Day
Determine what makes you stressed
Pay attention to how your body reacts to certain situations. Notice when you feel tension in your neck, shoulder, or jaw. Stress causes other physical changes in your body as well, such as increased heart rate and chemical imbalances, notes Bower.
Learn the difference between problems and predicaments, encourages Fetsch. Predicaments are forces over which you have less than 50% control, such as the weather, commodity prices, etc. Problems are factors over which you have at least 50% control. āWhen I ask people to list their top 10 stressors, the weather almost always makes the list, so do commodity prices and equipment costs,ā says Fetsch. āBut these are all predicaments over which you donāt have control. Rather than focus on these, focus on aspects over which you have control such as when youāll turn on the irrigation water.
āThe same rule applies to relationships with people. You probably donāt have a lot of control over what Mom and Dad thinks,ā he continues. āInstead of focusing on their reaction, focus on how you can be the best farmer, husband, wife, etc. you can be.ā
Control your reaction to stress
Fetsch defines stress as a response to a perceived threat. Rarely are our threats truly dangerous, but threats against our plans ā especially those involving time, money or relationships ā are the basis for most of our stress.
For example, what is your reaction to a rainy morning if you had fieldwork planned? āInstead of letting it stress you out, focus on work that can be done in the barn or the office,ā says Bower. Making it a productive day will reduce the stress. āMake a conscious decision to reframe an unplanned circumstance as an opportunity to do something else,ā he says. Rather than obsess about them, train yourself to let go of those things you canāt control.ā
Your perception of a stressful event is a key variable between those who handle stress well and those who donāt, explains Fetsch. For example, it may not be so much a financial condition as what that financial condition means to you.
āIf you think youāre going under, youāll have a lot higher stress and depression than if you think you have some way to manage it,ā he says. āIt may help to consider that at other times in your life you may have lived with less income, or maybe a spouse can get a part-time job. If you look at positive actions, it will help your stress level and depression and will help you stay healthier with better family functioning. Itās like a card game ā itās not so much winning or losing, but how well we deal with the hand weāre dealt.ā
There are several physical and mental activities that can release tension and promote relaxation. Physically, Fetsch suggests that you do stretching exercises every morning, especially if you plan to do a physically strenuous activity during the day.
āPeriodically throughout the day take some time for deep breathing. Roll your head to the left and right a few times and close your eyes for a second or two,ā he notes. āItās a relatively simple thing to do that doesnāt take much time. Itās best to be able to relax for 20 to 30 minutes, but even a minute or two is better than nothing.ā
Emotionally, Fetsch says to focus on things that are pleasant to you, such as family. āThere is real value in getting physically removed from the operation,ā adds Joyce. āBut on those days when you canāt do that, you can do it in your mind.ā
Take some time off
Try setting aside one day a week where you donāt plan any farm work. Having a day with no real fixed agenda can be beneficial.
Stay connected with neighbors and the community
Joyce indicates that in just one generation weāve gone from a society that enjoys a friendly visit to one that hopes no one stops when they spot us outside. The culture has shifted. Drop-in visits just donāt happen anymore. The gift of a visit, a good meal, and having fun together are becoming lost rural arts. They used to give people a lot of renewal and relaxation. But we can regain some of it. Most of us have a cell phone. Call your neighbors and ask if itās OK to drop in. They have the opportunity to say yes or no, and you havenāt lost anything by asking.
Staying connected also helps identify neighbors and friends in crisis. Keep an eye out for who is withdrawing. Some peopleās response to financial and time pressures is to pull back from the community. Pay attention to who isnāt coming to the auctions and special community events. Most people donāt even realize that they are disconnecting.
Let go of hostility
Research indicates that those who are not only stressed but are also hostile about it, are at greater risk for health issues. āThereās a difference being stressed and being stressed with hostility,ā says Fetsch. āWhen thereās anger and blame towardsĀ the government, family members, the neighbor, etc., at some point these people will likely have health problems.ā
Give yourself permission to pause

Donāt confuse relaxing with being lazy. Itās a good thing. āEverybody has the same 24 hours a day and everybody makes decisions about what to do with them,ā Bower says. āThink about other people who depend on you. If you feel youāre being selfish by taking a few minutes to relax, consider that itās an investment in your family. Itās an investment for being around to see your children and grandchildren. Farmers, in particular, are very concerned about appearing to be selfish, but consider that by relaxing, youāre doing something for someone else. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.ā